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FYI Eva Longoria

As Black Women, we come from a long historical relationship with the Democratic Party. We also have a long history with Joe Biden. When I heard the statements from Eva Longoria, I found them to be dismissive, reductive, and disrespectful. She expressed her kitchen table talk publicly. I found her response more of an explanation than an apology. One that we hear time and time again from the white community.

I get that there is an internal anti blackness challenge within the Latin community, but this ain’t that. She specifically named a black woman and the black community in Georgia. And specifically said that Latina women were the ‘real’ heroines of this election.

Say what now? Eva and her comrades started an organization 2 or so months ago called She Se Puede to get out the Latina vote in this election. I think it is wonderful. I was extremely excited to see Latin women join the cause of supporting the Democratic Party so boldly.

I would listen to their Instagram lives listening to their issues and deep desire to see the current occupant out is office. The issues are valid but seemed distinctly different from that of black Americans. I didn’t hear talk of police brutality or systemic oppression or racism.

I know that within the Latino community there is a deep presence of anti blackness and it’s a deep seeded issue. Colonization had done a number on folks for generations. But there comes a point when people have to take a look inside and dismantle the white supremacy within. People do not understand its impact of communities of color against each other. That is its grand design to separate us and keep us divided.

The division is incredibly amplified with the statements Eva made during her interview. It was really so unnecessary and hurtful. Several people have come to her defense after she issued an explanation of her statement. I get it, my girls would defend me too. But to ask black women to move on without a full understanding of why this occurred, it just isn’t possible.

Black Women are not here to make to others feel comfortable in the name of unity. We have the innate ability to occupy more that one space at a time. We are used to dealing with racist, reductive and racists statements while winning. There is nothing more evident than a big win for Joe Biden.

Joe said he would pick a women vice president and Black Women across the country demanded it be a black women specifically. Several great candidates were on the short list and ultimately Kamala Harris was the choice. Once the choice was made black women from every coalition across America got busy. Working hours upon hours in what every lane they were in. From posting information to showing up at everything possible to register people and get out the vote. We are not new to this. Organizing is what we do. Stacey Abrams is the icing on the cake but she is part of a mighty oak tree that ignited to push Joe across the finish line.

Everyone kicked in from celebrities to grass roots. It was a broad coalition but at the heart of it was black women. People are seemed to be primed and ready to belittle little what we do and how we do it. But at the heart of it, most do not understand it. You do not have to but one must respect it. Saying that Latina women are the ‘REAL’ heroines of this election was a kick in the gut of inclusion.

It is not enough to put out an explanation but on must do a deep dive into their own mind to understand why you even said it. I mean really? Ouch! We cannot move forward in unity until the remnants of white supremacy are up rooted and examined. And we cannot have people asking black women to move on from a conversion we did not start. And , Afro Latina women cannot accept apologies for Black Women. This is not about the internal division within the latin culture. This is about that chasm between Black American Women and Latin Women.

The only moving on we can do to bring true unity is moving on to an honest conversion about why this even occurred. Unity cannot happen with the wounds of colonization festering beneath the surface. And I understand because for years Black Women have said what about us and we are finally getting recognition for our work. This can be intimidating but it’s only coming after a long legacy of activism and action that has been in play long before this election. We didn’t just start singing We Shall Overcome a couple of months ago.

Even during the civil rights days the accomplishments of Black Women were pushed to the back of the bus. Now we drive the bus and own the company. This is something folks will have to get use to because we will no longer be the mules of society, as bell hooks describes us. We are the leaders we have always been, now you just have to get used to seeing it.

Put some respect on our name B L A C K W O M A N !

Monica Wisdom,
Founder, Black Women Amplified

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Hey Sis,

I hope you had a grand weekend. I spent time with friends and chilled in my bed watching this quirky show called ‘Huge in France’ on Netflix. It’s a show all about rich people problems. Well, not really but that is the conclusion I came up with.

But mostly after a challenging day at work, I just needed breathing space. Not to give to many details, I had someone who challenged my character because I did not want to take them on as a client.

Being an entrepreneur can put one in some sticky positions sometimes. On one hand, you want to be of service but on the other had one has to make it completely clear that we are not servants.

As an expert in my field is not a title that I bestowed upon myself. It is a term that people that I have worked gave to me. I consider myself a constant learner. There is always more to learn and technology is constantly making improvements.

I have realized one thing I wish I had learned 25 years ago. Everyone does not deserve access to your shine. We all have a place where we shine. That thing that comes easy to us and is as simple as breathing. True many people do that same thing but the exact way you do it, sis, that is your shine.

We live from the notion that if you have a gift that it is your duty to share it with the world. Well, what I have come to realize is that really is not the case. Some folks like Coke and some folks like Pepsi. And 9 times out of ten you will never convince a Pepsi person that Coke is better.

My life had been a quest or liberation and the older I get the more I realize that true liberation is the freedom to say yes to yourself. This eliminates stress, people pleasing and spreading yourself thin.

The 2 things that God gave us is free will and choice, and in this life, I am beginning to choose me. My shine is worthy!

Thanks for listening! Chat soon!

Monica Wisdom,
Founder

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Hey Sis, Welcome

Hey Sis,

I just wanted to stop by and tell you why I created this space for us. As I walked through the blogosphere, I couldn’t find something that spoke my language. I am a Gen x nerdy book loving fashionable lover of art who loves dinner with my girls and nights with my man. I love house music, poetry, jazz, soul, travel, belongs to the Rhythm Nation and breaths hip-hop. Woo, we are a lot and from my point of view, it’s a good thing.

The voice of the Gen X Black Women is one that seems to be carved out of every conversation. Like we are the adults in the playroom of life. But when things need to be straightened up we become the cavalry armed with a cell phone, note pad, and a strong sisterhood.

Welp, it is time to break out of the background and free ourselves from the background and restore our vitality fully expressed.

Black Women Amplified is the place for our expression. Where are we share ourselves fearlessly and unapologetically! We were raised to be humble and to be of service but dammit we are not servants waiting on who needs us most.

We are here and we got something to say. In Fact, because our generation of innovators, we have the instructions, knowledge, and wisdom to course correct all the things. But before we get to recalibrating societies GPS, we are going to have a bit of fun ourselves. Responsible for only our dreams and desires.

All are welcome to enjoy our journey and join along the way. But hey we are about to reclaim our space and have a bit of healing, restoration, and fun. Sometimes laughing, sometimes crying but all times growing.

Share with your crew and enjoy the ride. Welcome to Black Women Amplified.