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Black Women are the MVP’s! 1080 608 monity

Black Women are the MVP’s!

There is a disturbing phenomenon happening in this country.

Until it is eradicated within our community, we will never truly move forward. I am hearing over and over again that Joe Biden shouldn’t pick a Black woman for Vice President. Because it will ensure a loss.

Black women are known to be the backbone of the Democratic Party. Time and time again we gather the children and head to vote. Not only vote, but at the highest percentage of all who vote for the Democratic Party.

We show up and bring our tribe. We organize, contribute money and, fight for the win. Yet even with insurmountable evidence of our drive and conviction, our abilities are constantly doubted.

In a discussion, someone said that a black woman as VP was just a prop. I responded by saying that you don’t want a prop but it’s ok for us to be a mule. Bell Hooks famously states that Black women are the mules of society and Malcolm X stated that the black woman is the most disrespected in the world.

Both statements are sadly true. Time and time again our needs and ambitions are pushed to the back of the bus. We are told that we should step aside so the best person can get the job. Why isn’t it a possibility that a Black woman is indeed the best person for the job? If we are doing the work of said job then give us the title, position, salary, and power that goes along with the work we are already doing.

The excuse is that white women won’t accept us. Where is the evidence? The two most revered women in the world are Oprah Winfrey and Michelle Obama. Let’s not forget Beyoncé, Janet, and Rhianna. Who at a moment’s notice could fill stadiums? That is not simply because of music but because of their power to connect with humanity.

Black Women have always understood the depths of this country. We know because we raised everyone in it. From birthing the workforce to being the wet nurse for the plantations owners children. We have spent generations in the shadows contributing to every corner of this nation.

And frankly, I’m fucking sick of it. Who better to address our needs of America than Black Women? Because of our innate disposition of nurturing those around us, we will automatically take care of the community.

The misogyny of it all is exhausting. Constantly being told next time. What about equal pay, next time. What about quality health care, next time. I’m mean how many next times have to pass by before it’s our time? Our time is now.

It’s getting close to the point where we sit this one out. One day you will all look around and wonder what happened, not to us, but this nation. Since y’all so concerned about how others will vote, how about we have a seat and, allow the unseasoned chicken to take over. Don’t worry about us, we will just head to the beaches of New Zealand or where ever The Rock is from and stop giving AF.

Continuing to take black women for granted is a huge mistake. We are the sages of a nation that is in much need of healing. With 98% of Black Women voting for democrats, it is clear that the next phase of the party must include leaders who reflect the base.

We are the heart of the party. If we are not taken care of in a reciprocal manner then this election will fail. Because the Democratic Party wins Black Women rock the fucking vote.

All of our future depends on how the democratic party takes care of us. We are no longer the Help. Treat us like the vital, important Queens we are by choosing a Black Women as Vice President.

Monica,
Founder, Black Women Amplified

Dear T.I. 620 394 monity

Dear T.I.

Dear T.I.,

First, let me say that I have much respect for your work in the community. It is beautiful to see you be an example of how to protect the community. But with every yin, there is a yang.

When I first heard what was said about your daughter I thought it was a rumor then I heard the audio. I was mortified. And I understand where you came from and you deeply wanting to protect your daughter. But it is also important that you deeply trust your daughter and help to build her confidence and self-esteem.

As women, we learn to love through our relationships with our fathers. We unknowingly and subconsciously seek out the example of how we were loved by our daddy’s. What you are teaching your daughter is what love looks like control and love looks like distrust. It is a form of oppression that happens all over the world. And to make this information public has set your daughter up for harassment and humiliation. Situations like these shape how we see the world and how we see ourselves in it. You have caused trauma to your daughter and triggered many women around the globe, subsequently reinforcing this egregious behavior. (I know you like big words)

Now I am not going to say much more because social media is full of more than appropriate dragging. But I will take from your leadership in the Gucci debacle and use that as an example of an appropriate response.

I am going to put you on probation for 3 months. I will disconnect from all of your channels and suggest all that read this do the same. I will suggest that you take that time to learn about how black women and women around the world have been oppressed and ‘protected’ by their fathers, brothers, and uncles. I will suggest that you take a proper sex education class and anatomy class so that you can understand how a women’s body works. We are not only designed for the pleasure of men.

There is an organization in Atlanta called Men Stopping Violence, I suggest that for the next 3 months that you signed up and take full advantaged of their programs. They will also help you understand better how to communicate with your daughters and sons. (www.menstoppingviolence.com)

Once your 3-month probation I will expect a full report of what you have learned, how you will communicate with your daughter about her body, how you well support equality for women and how you will help to end sexism and misogyny in the black community.

I get that you want to protect your daughter from all that you have seen but there is a more productive, loving and empathic way to approach it. I am happy to see any man engaged in their children’s life but I know that a smart man such as yourself can evolve from 1852 and allow your daughter to have agency over her own body with compassion and grace.

With Love and Power,
Monica Wisdom
Founder, Black Women Amplified