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Who are those people? 500 333 monity

Who are those people?

Hey Queen,

Have you ever wonder what it meant when the elders told us to be careful of the company we keep? I never really thought much about it until recently. And when I say recently, I mean today.

The older we get our inner circles to get smaller and smaller. But the older we get so do our ideas and desires. We say we want a more simple life but is that what we really want or do we just want to streamline it. Less complicated so to speak.

It is entirely possible to have a grand expansive life without it being complicated. And by completed I mean giving a fuck what others think about your life.

We spend most of our time in conflict with overworking ourselves trying to figure out others will like what we are doing or saying. The acknowledgment of others seems to be our ruling planet. It is the energy that we revolve around.

It determines how we speak, what we say, how we dress, and even what food we eat. We have such a deep desire to belong that we will join any tribe that accepts us.

I get it, I was always a different kind of kid. I never liked doing normal girl things. And to this day I hate the mall. Online shopping was a gift from heaven. Kinda/!?!?! But as a kid, I went to the mall because that is where all the kids went and I wanted to belong. Honestly, I never really fit in. I was always too something. To big, to black, not black enough, too boring. It was painful and kids these days call it bullying but for me it just made me work harder to fit in.

It was exhausting and I never felt comfortable in my own skin. Overall it helped me build a tough skin and character. I learned to speak up for myself and find my own tribe.

My tribe turned out to be a group of artists who spoke my same artsy language and thought about weird shit all of the time. It was amazing. I could be myself and fully grow into the person I was born to be.

But along the way, I got lost again. I fell in love with a corporate dude and his world was so interesting to me. He was so interesting to me. Smart, fine, and powerful. I loved being on his arm at all of these fancy functions. But when I look back I also realized that in order to fit in, I dimmed my light. I went from a bright peacock to a suit-wearing bore. I became a complete bore.

I didn’t realize what it was full but I realize that when I was away from the chicken dinner, fancy people world, my heart soared. When I could go to the art museum and stare at paint for an hour or sit at a cafe riding a sexy novel about nothing, joy was everywhere.

It is amazing how the people we surround ourselves with can impact how we see the world. It is not a drastic change but bit by bit we become something or someone unrecognizable. That can be good or it can be bad. If we are doing it to live our authentic dreams then it can be a great decision but if we are doing it to fit in and be accepted, then not so much.

If you look around and you find that you are doing and saying things that don’t feel good, you will know what road you choose.

Every day is a new opportunity to make a new choice.

Love and light
Monica Wisdom
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Pushing Play 275 183 monity

Pushing Play

Hey Queen,

Yesterday I paused but today I am pressing play. It is amazing how a night of reflection and rest can rejuvenate. It all became clear that it was time for me to tap into my inner genius in order to rebuild my life within this new world that is evolving.

One person that I have been watching evolve in this ‘Rona Era’ is Eric Roberson. (If you don’t know who he is checking our www.ericrobersonmusic.com) I knew he was smart, gifted, and an old school hustler. But, as society began to shut down, Eric slipped deep into his genius and by the tools of technology, we were all able to watch his process.

I have always said that black men are alchemists. Observing men in my life create something out of nothing has always been a source of inspiration. But his was a whole new level. He was like a magician pulling mastery out of one of his many hats.

In four weeks I observed him create, produce and release an album, promote and grow his private membership, teach a music class online at Berkely, create Vlog cast, do interviews, and put out a music video. Wait there’s more. All while homeschooling his three sons and being there for his beautiful wife Shaun. I am exhausted but just talking about it.

We all have an inner genius. It is available to us at all times. It is that tingle or idea that comes through you. It is our internal GPS that gives clear direction on where to go next. In order to activate it is important to tap into it through prayer, meditation, and pure trust.

When you trust this guidance and activate it, pure magic happens. One will look up and accomplish nor in 28 days than many achieve in a lifetime. As the saying goes, “let go and let God.” Letting go of your ego, insecurities, and pride free up space allowing God’s guidance to flow through you. I believe that most of us here this guidance but talk ourselves out of letting it flow.

As Eric poured his musical gift all over the internet, he solidified his position as the King of Soul up in these streets. His business savvy is admirable and worthy of a Forbes cover. ( see what I did there)

Love and Light,

Monica Wisdom,

Check out Eric’s new video: Official Music Video: Already Knew You

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Dear T.I. 620 394 monity

Dear T.I.

Dear T.I.,

First, let me say that I have much respect for your work in the community. It is beautiful to see you be an example of how to protect the community. But with every yin, there is a yang.

When I first heard what was said about your daughter I thought it was a rumor then I heard the audio. I was mortified. And I understand where you came from and you deeply wanting to protect your daughter. But it is also important that you deeply trust your daughter and help to build her confidence and self-esteem.

As women, we learn to love through our relationships with our fathers. We unknowingly and subconsciously seek out the example of how we were loved by our daddy’s. What you are teaching your daughter is what love looks like control and love looks like distrust. It is a form of oppression that happens all over the world. And to make this information public has set your daughter up for harassment and humiliation. Situations like these shape how we see the world and how we see ourselves in it. You have caused trauma to your daughter and triggered many women around the globe, subsequently reinforcing this egregious behavior. (I know you like big words)

Now I am not going to say much more because social media is full of more than appropriate dragging. But I will take from your leadership in the Gucci debacle and use that as an example of an appropriate response.

I am going to put you on probation for 3 months. I will disconnect from all of your channels and suggest all that read this do the same. I will suggest that you take that time to learn about how black women and women around the world have been oppressed and ‘protected’ by their fathers, brothers, and uncles. I will suggest that you take a proper sex education class and anatomy class so that you can understand how a women’s body works. We are not only designed for the pleasure of men.

There is an organization in Atlanta called Men Stopping Violence, I suggest that for the next 3 months that you signed up and take full advantaged of their programs. They will also help you understand better how to communicate with your daughters and sons. (www.menstoppingviolence.com)

Once your 3-month probation I will expect a full report of what you have learned, how you will communicate with your daughter about her body, how you well support equality for women and how you will help to end sexism and misogyny in the black community.

I get that you want to protect your daughter from all that you have seen but there is a more productive, loving and empathic way to approach it. I am happy to see any man engaged in their children’s life but I know that a smart man such as yourself can evolve from 1852 and allow your daughter to have agency over her own body with compassion and grace.

With Love and Power,
Monica Wisdom
Founder, Black Women Amplified