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FYI Eva Longoria 330 330 monity

FYI Eva Longoria

As Black Women, we come from a long historical relationship with the Democratic Party. We also have a long history with Joe Biden. When I heard the statements from Eva Longoria, I found them to be dismissive, reductive, and disrespectful. She expressed her kitchen table talk publicly. I found her response more of an explanation than an apology. One that we hear time and time again from the white community.

I get that there is an internal anti blackness challenge within the Latin community, but this ain’t that. She specifically named a black woman and the black community in Georgia. And specifically said that Latina women were the ‘real’ heroines of this election.

Say what now? Eva and her comrades started an organization 2 or so months ago called She Se Puede to get out the Latina vote in this election. I think it is wonderful. I was extremely excited to see Latin women join the cause of supporting the Democratic Party so boldly.

I would listen to their Instagram lives listening to their issues and deep desire to see the current occupant out is office. The issues are valid but seemed distinctly different from that of black Americans. I didn’t hear talk of police brutality or systemic oppression or racism.

I know that within the Latino community there is a deep presence of anti blackness and it’s a deep seeded issue. Colonization had done a number on folks for generations. But there comes a point when people have to take a look inside and dismantle the white supremacy within. People do not understand its impact of communities of color against each other. That is its grand design to separate us and keep us divided.

The division is incredibly amplified with the statements Eva made during her interview. It was really so unnecessary and hurtful. Several people have come to her defense after she issued an explanation of her statement. I get it, my girls would defend me too. But to ask black women to move on without a full understanding of why this occurred, it just isn’t possible.

Black Women are not here to make to others feel comfortable in the name of unity. We have the innate ability to occupy more that one space at a time. We are used to dealing with racist, reductive and racists statements while winning. There is nothing more evident than a big win for Joe Biden.

Joe said he would pick a women vice president and Black Women across the country demanded it be a black women specifically. Several great candidates were on the short list and ultimately Kamala Harris was the choice. Once the choice was made black women from every coalition across America got busy. Working hours upon hours in what every lane they were in. From posting information to showing up at everything possible to register people and get out the vote. We are not new to this. Organizing is what we do. Stacey Abrams is the icing on the cake but she is part of a mighty oak tree that ignited to push Joe across the finish line.

Everyone kicked in from celebrities to grass roots. It was a broad coalition but at the heart of it was black women. People are seemed to be primed and ready to belittle little what we do and how we do it. But at the heart of it, most do not understand it. You do not have to but one must respect it. Saying that Latina women are the ‘REAL’ heroines of this election was a kick in the gut of inclusion.

It is not enough to put out an explanation but on must do a deep dive into their own mind to understand why you even said it. I mean really? Ouch! We cannot move forward in unity until the remnants of white supremacy are up rooted and examined. And we cannot have people asking black women to move on from a conversion we did not start. And , Afro Latina women cannot accept apologies for Black Women. This is not about the internal division within the latin culture. This is about that chasm between Black American Women and Latin Women.

The only moving on we can do to bring true unity is moving on to an honest conversion about why this even occurred. Unity cannot happen with the wounds of colonization festering beneath the surface. And I understand because for years Black Women have said what about us and we are finally getting recognition for our work. This can be intimidating but it’s only coming after a long legacy of activism and action that has been in play long before this election. We didn’t just start singing We Shall Overcome a couple of months ago.

Even during the civil rights days the accomplishments of Black Women were pushed to the back of the bus. Now we drive the bus and own the company. This is something folks will have to get use to because we will no longer be the mules of society, as bell hooks describes us. We are the leaders we have always been, now you just have to get used to seeing it.

Put some respect on our name B L A C K W O M A N !

Monica Wisdom,
Founder, Black Women Amplified

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Black Women are the MVP’s! 1080 608 monity

Black Women are the MVP’s!

There is a disturbing phenomenon happening in this country.

Until it is eradicated within our community, we will never truly move forward. I am hearing over and over again that Joe Biden shouldn’t pick a Black woman for Vice President. Because it will ensure a loss.

Black women are known to be the backbone of the Democratic Party. Time and time again we gather the children and head to vote. Not only vote, but at the highest percentage of all who vote for the Democratic Party.

We show up and bring our tribe. We organize, contribute money and, fight for the win. Yet even with insurmountable evidence of our drive and conviction, our abilities are constantly doubted.

In a discussion, someone said that a black woman as VP was just a prop. I responded by saying that you don’t want a prop but it’s ok for us to be a mule. Bell Hooks famously states that Black women are the mules of society and Malcolm X stated that the black woman is the most disrespected in the world.

Both statements are sadly true. Time and time again our needs and ambitions are pushed to the back of the bus. We are told that we should step aside so the best person can get the job. Why isn’t it a possibility that a Black woman is indeed the best person for the job? If we are doing the work of said job then give us the title, position, salary, and power that goes along with the work we are already doing.

The excuse is that white women won’t accept us. Where is the evidence? The two most revered women in the world are Oprah Winfrey and Michelle Obama. Let’s not forget Beyoncé, Janet, and Rhianna. Who at a moment’s notice could fill stadiums? That is not simply because of music but because of their power to connect with humanity.

Black Women have always understood the depths of this country. We know because we raised everyone in it. From birthing the workforce to being the wet nurse for the plantations owners children. We have spent generations in the shadows contributing to every corner of this nation.

And frankly, I’m fucking sick of it. Who better to address our needs of America than Black Women? Because of our innate disposition of nurturing those around us, we will automatically take care of the community.

The misogyny of it all is exhausting. Constantly being told next time. What about equal pay, next time. What about quality health care, next time. I’m mean how many next times have to pass by before it’s our time? Our time is now.

It’s getting close to the point where we sit this one out. One day you will all look around and wonder what happened, not to us, but this nation. Since y’all so concerned about how others will vote, how about we have a seat and, allow the unseasoned chicken to take over. Don’t worry about us, we will just head to the beaches of New Zealand or where ever The Rock is from and stop giving AF.

Continuing to take black women for granted is a huge mistake. We are the sages of a nation that is in much need of healing. With 98% of Black Women voting for democrats, it is clear that the next phase of the party must include leaders who reflect the base.

We are the heart of the party. If we are not taken care of in a reciprocal manner then this election will fail. Because the Democratic Party wins Black Women rock the fucking vote.

All of our future depends on how the democratic party takes care of us. We are no longer the Help. Treat us like the vital, important Queens we are by choosing a Black Women as Vice President.

Monica,
Founder, Black Women Amplified

Who are those people? 500 333 monity

Who are those people?

Hey Queen,

Have you ever wonder what it meant when the elders told us to be careful of the company we keep? I never really thought much about it until recently. And when I say recently, I mean today.

The older we get our inner circles to get smaller and smaller. But the older we get so do our ideas and desires. We say we want a more simple life but is that what we really want or do we just want to streamline it. Less complicated so to speak.

It is entirely possible to have a grand expansive life without it being complicated. And by completed I mean giving a fuck what others think about your life.

We spend most of our time in conflict with overworking ourselves trying to figure out others will like what we are doing or saying. The acknowledgment of others seems to be our ruling planet. It is the energy that we revolve around.

It determines how we speak, what we say, how we dress, and even what food we eat. We have such a deep desire to belong that we will join any tribe that accepts us.

I get it, I was always a different kind of kid. I never liked doing normal girl things. And to this day I hate the mall. Online shopping was a gift from heaven. Kinda/!?!?! But as a kid, I went to the mall because that is where all the kids went and I wanted to belong. Honestly, I never really fit in. I was always too something. To big, to black, not black enough, too boring. It was painful and kids these days call it bullying but for me it just made me work harder to fit in.

It was exhausting and I never felt comfortable in my own skin. Overall it helped me build a tough skin and character. I learned to speak up for myself and find my own tribe.

My tribe turned out to be a group of artists who spoke my same artsy language and thought about weird shit all of the time. It was amazing. I could be myself and fully grow into the person I was born to be.

But along the way, I got lost again. I fell in love with a corporate dude and his world was so interesting to me. He was so interesting to me. Smart, fine, and powerful. I loved being on his arm at all of these fancy functions. But when I look back I also realized that in order to fit in, I dimmed my light. I went from a bright peacock to a suit-wearing bore. I became a complete bore.

I didn’t realize what it was full but I realize that when I was away from the chicken dinner, fancy people world, my heart soared. When I could go to the art museum and stare at paint for an hour or sit at a cafe riding a sexy novel about nothing, joy was everywhere.

It is amazing how the people we surround ourselves with can impact how we see the world. It is not a drastic change but bit by bit we become something or someone unrecognizable. That can be good or it can be bad. If we are doing it to live our authentic dreams then it can be a great decision but if we are doing it to fit in and be accepted, then not so much.

If you look around and you find that you are doing and saying things that don’t feel good, you will know what road you choose.

Every day is a new opportunity to make a new choice.

Love and light
Monica Wisdom
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Today I Pause 400 267 monity

Today I Pause

Hey Queen,

When the world stopped, for many, it was a welcomed break. We were told that the virus would be in and out of here quickly and life would return back to normal. Now some five weeks later the world is realizing that the life we had before will become a shadowed memory. It seems that life will no longer be new nor will it ever be normal. As divine souls, we are learning how to adapt and adjust.

I have been working since I was 9 years old. Working at my father’s pharmacy at the front register selling everything from penny candy to toilet paper. We were literally the corner store. Walgreen before anyone ever heard of a wal or a greens. My job happened on the weekends, holidays, and summers. I learned to count money in my head and could calculate change perfectly in my head. Life was not simple but, it certainly seemed easier than now.

Now, I can’t say that I have gone without money because there were times when all we had was peanut butter bread and a bag of potatoes due to my parent’s divorce or my father’s business having to close because Walgreens moved up the street. Yes, the irony does not escape me.

But who would ever think that a pandemic would be the culprit of how the world is now. I have been doing my best to stay positive, but as days pass and people die, it gets harder and harder to find a smile. My mood is just solemn as I do my best not to fall deep into sadness.

Yes, I know in my heart that this will pass. I also know that this is a great time of innovation. Some of the most powerful companies out now started during the last recession. I know the numbers and stats. But this day seems like the realization that life is again going to be different.

I have a choice. I get to choose how I want it to be different. I get to choose if I fall off the side of a mountain or I climb to the next plateau. It is kind of a powerful place to know that its all on me. Today it seems heavy. Today the world seems heavy.

The saving grace of it all is that I do not have to carry it alone. The load is lighter when we all do it together.

But today I am mourning my life as I knew it while moving forward rebuilding my new world.

For a moment I am going to pause, lay down my crown, and simply cry.

Love and Love,

Monica Wisdom

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Get you some good friends. 150 150 monity

Get you some good friends.

There is nothing better than having great friends. Offline of course.

Today was a snow day for me and I got a chance to spend almost 3 hours talking to one of my best friends. Talking on the phone has become this mystical occurrence in my life and for more than just lack of time. We know that at 50 we have deep commitments and time crunches. But today my clients cancelled which meant I have the day off from my main gig.

My friend sent me a youtube and I replied in my usual sarcasm and instead of our usual text banter her called. I answered the phone , he said 2 world and I busted out laughing as he proceeded to chin check me for my sarcasm. Almost 3 hours later of deep conversations and ridiculous banter our phones hung up on us. The nerve of Iphone.

But I tell you what, it was the best medicine ever. I am blessed to have 20 and 30 year friendships and no matter how far we move apart from each other, the connection still remains.

These are the kind of friendships that lift up your soul and open your heart. They challenge your thinking, hold up the mirror to your faults and love you with few conditions. It’s so amazing to have just joy through friendships even when the honesty is so brutal that you sometimes want to cry. But that is what real friends are for.

Real friends hold you accountable and pull the best out of you. Get you some real friends.

Peace and love,

Monica Wisdom

Founder, Black Women Amplified

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When They See Us? My Thoughts 150 150 monity

When They See Us? My Thoughts

Hey Sis,

I spent the weekend getting educated on being black in America. I watched the riveting movie ‘When They See Us’.  Then I watched ‘Reconstruction’, the Henry Louis Gates PBS special, about the period just after slavery.

NEW YORK, NEW YORK – MAY 20: Kevin Richardson, Antron Mccray, Raymond Santana Jr., Korey Wise, and Yusef Salaam attend the World Premiere of Netflix’s “When They See Us” at the Apollo Theater on May 20, 2019 in New York City. (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images)

This is America History that everyone should watch. Watching Reconstruction, I was able to see exactly how When They See Us happened. How a lie was cultivated and crafted into a truth shamelessly.

Intellectually I see the patterns clearly but emotionally I just don’t understand why? As I am sitting here typing this and words are escaping me. It’s really hard for me to comprehend the level of hatred and righteousness that it takes to destroy the lives of people just for the sake of self-preservation.

I can’t comprehend that level of evil justified through laws and actions plotted out to terrorize a group of people one can no longer own. They say we were not human but these inhuman acts beg the question, How do you define human?

Sometimes I think black folks are aliens who landed on the wrong planet. The level of pain and terror we have and continue to endure is unfathomable. Yet we still continue to express joy, love, forgiveness, empathy, and compassion. How?

Does melanin protect out spirits like an electronic shield? Are we superhuman or super something else? How? How do we continue to push for our humanity peacefully? How do we continue to thrive despite the pain, the lies, and the terror?

Even though I don’t get the folks who perpetrate these atrocities, I get less is us. How do we continue growing, loving and expressing joy? Where did we get this strength and resilience from? How are we so traumatized and continue to move forward?

Linda Fairstein is no different than bbq Becky. Elements of the Central Park 5 case is no different than the Emmit Till. Kalief Browder’s case directly connects to the horrors of the middle passage. It is a haunting continuation of the past.

Everyone should see When They See Us. Hopefully one day they will.

Stressed? 150 150 monity

Stressed?

 

Hey Sis,

I hope you had a grand weekend. I spent time with friends and chilled in my bed watching this quirky show called ‘Huge in France’ on Netflix. It’s a show all about rich people problems. Well, not really but that is the conclusion I came up with.

But mostly after a challenging day at work, I just needed breathing space. Not to give to many details, I had someone who challenged my character because I did not want to take them on as a client.

Being an entrepreneur can put one in some sticky positions sometimes. On one hand, you want to be of service but on the other had one has to make it completely clear that we are not servants.

As an expert in my field is not a title that I bestowed upon myself. It is a term that people that I have worked gave to me. I consider myself a constant learner. There is always more to learn and technology is constantly making improvements.

I have realized one thing I wish I had learned 25 years ago. Everyone does not deserve access to your shine. We all have a place where we shine. That thing that comes easy to us and is as simple as breathing. True many people do that same thing but the exact way you do it, sis, that is your shine.

We live from the notion that if you have a gift that it is your duty to share it with the world. Well, what I have come to realize is that really is not the case. Some folks like Coke and some folks like Pepsi. And 9 times out of ten you will never convince a Pepsi person that Coke is better.

My life had been a quest or liberation and the older I get the more I realize that true liberation is the freedom to say yes to yourself. This eliminates stress, people pleasing and spreading yourself thin.

The 2 things that God gave us is free will and choice, and in this life, I am beginning to choose me. My shine is worthy!

Thanks for listening! Chat soon!

Monica Wisdom,
Founder

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I am a Black Woman 400 267 monity

I am a Black Woman

I do not like the term People of Color. Because many times the term is used but black folks are not included. I had an entire interaction with the Thinkific people on Instagram because they are having an online summit with all ‘Women of Color’ which includes black women. That’s fantastic. But I asked them if they hire black women. She went through all the company does for diversity and by the end of the conversation, my question had finally been answered.

No, they had not hired one American black woman or not one black Canadian woman. The reason I ask the question is that often black women are used to promoting and selling a product but we are not included as vendors or employees.

Our black girl magic sells ish but the economics has to be reciprocal. Companies have to be called out. Because if your diversity program is not truly inclusive then why have one. This is everyone’s responsibility.

Read it for yourself. All of these stats but nada. Smh

I have no issue that the summit is happening. Let’s understand that black women spend money and that’s why companies are courting our business. Does it extend our brand, of course, but until we have a stake in the profits that our magic creates, we will continue to fall behind economically as a community.

(let me be clear when I say black women I mean indigenous black women who are descendants of the trans-Atlantic slave trade)

Monica Wisdom,

Founder, Black Women Amplified

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I Finally Understand Millennial’s 500 333 monity

I Finally Understand Millennial’s

I finally get it. I just had the biggest aha moment. Millennials have always mystified me. As a deep thinker, I just couldn’t seem to grasp how they think.
I never understood a millennial. I just passed them off as entitled and angry for no apparent reason. Well, that’s kinda true. I mean why they so mad??!?

But it just came to me that they were born to dismantle the system. All of the systems designed to feed capitalism and oppression. They ain’t putting up with no isms. No racism, no sexism, classism, no phobias and no controls of any kind. They are truly the hopes of the hippie generation manifested.

Think about it. They have no loyalty to corporate America, yet they make more money than we did at that age. They have no problem living at home past 18, we were in a hurry to leave. They are not getting married, we dreamed about Prince Charming.

They are not interested in the whole idea of the American Dream because they have dreams too. And they don’t wait to go for them. I mean some these kids are becoming millionaires before 30. And they see the world as their friend.

Everything that we hold dear they think is just stupid. They have created their own language through hashtags, emojis in a
140 characters. And why dress up when your job happens to be on your couch. Hashtag laptop life. Hashtag pants-free lifestyle.
For them the ideas we were raised on completely escape them. So instead of conformity and assimilation, they just do what they want when they want. Cause they can.

But here is where they are lacking, life experience, historical context, and wisdom. Because they were raised by overprotective parents they never got a chance to fall and get back up on their own. They were raised in a bubble of convenience. I mean have you ever heard a millennial tell the ‘I had to walk 5 miles to school story?’ Nope….. Because their parents drove them to school. They never had a chance to fail, make mistakes or even lose because everyone got awarded.

So, unfortunately, I think that when their bubble burst they will not know how to handle the pain and pressure of it all. Hashtag it gets better. But even with that, they are changing things in huge ways on their own terms. Our job now is to teach them how life happens and to share our wisdom with that they can learn to get back up when they fall….. and let them fall.

It’s time to pull them in and let them understand the power of resilience and failing. It’s not too late to tell them how hard you had it. Because the bad part of us generation x’rs is that we have perfection issues. We want everything to look perfect…(but that’s another conversation)

Whelp, I finally get them and I have a whole new appreciation for millennials. And I hope they continue to dismantle these antiquated oppressive systems but also learn that the things we hold dear are not all bad.

(Things I think about when I should be asleep. You’re welcome! Monica Wisdom)

 

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Hey Sis, Welcome 275 183 monity

Hey Sis, Welcome

Hey Sis,

I just wanted to stop by and tell you why I created this space for us. As I walked through the blogosphere, I couldn’t find something that spoke my language. I am a Gen x nerdy book loving fashionable lover of art who loves dinner with my girls and nights with my man. I love house music, poetry, jazz, soul, travel, belongs to the Rhythm Nation and breaths hip-hop. Woo, we are a lot and from my point of view, it’s a good thing.

The voice of the Gen X Black Women is one that seems to be carved out of every conversation. Like we are the adults in the playroom of life. But when things need to be straightened up we become the cavalry armed with a cell phone, note pad, and a strong sisterhood.

Welp, it is time to break out of the background and free ourselves from the background and restore our vitality fully expressed.

Black Women Amplified is the place for our expression. Where are we share ourselves fearlessly and unapologetically! We were raised to be humble and to be of service but dammit we are not servants waiting on who needs us most.

We are here and we got something to say. In Fact, because our generation of innovators, we have the instructions, knowledge, and wisdom to course correct all the things. But before we get to recalibrating societies GPS, we are going to have a bit of fun ourselves. Responsible for only our dreams and desires.

All are welcome to enjoy our journey and join along the way. But hey we are about to reclaim our space and have a bit of healing, restoration, and fun. Sometimes laughing, sometimes crying but all times growing.

Share with your crew and enjoy the ride. Welcome to Black Women Amplified.