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Flourish Affirmation Journal 1080 720 monity

Flourish Affirmation Journal

Hey Sis,

I know I have not checked in lately. But I have been in deep production of Season 2 of our podcast. Have you checked out Season 1? It was so fun to create and lots of hard work.

I have so much to share with you. Lots happening in my life and the world. From family loss to building a new business.

I also created the Flourish Affirmation Journal that you can download HERE <

It is a digital download that is completely free to you. Affirmations are a tool in my self-care journey. I use them daily. I focus on a mantra when my mind starts spinning during times of imposter syndrome and I need to push through it. My favorite is I AM WORTHY. I’m sure you will find your fav.

Back to the podcast, we have some great interviews coming with powerful stories. I am so excited to share them with you. We will also be discussing Viola Davis’ new book Finding Me. If you don’t have it you can purchase it here and join our conversation.  FINDING ME!

Lots of Love and Kind Regards,

Monica, Founder Black Women Amplified


The Black Woman Revolution has begun. 890 534 monity

The Black Woman Revolution has begun.

We sing at the top of our lungs the song from “Let it Go’ from the movie Frozen, but when a Black woman chooses herself, the music stops.

What a week for Black Women, from Olympic disappointments to show cancellations to ischemic life-changing decisions. We have been on full display. But the most profound announcement was the decisions Nikole Hannah-Jones made to join the facility of Howard University.

When I saw her perched in a seat across from Gayle King, I could feel what I was hoping to hear. Dr. Jones methodically unveiled her decision process to join Howard University.

When the story broke that she was the first person not to receive tenure, the internet blew up. She overqualified for the job and was pursued. She was to become the Knight Chair which has in the past since the 1980s included tenure. But because a donor did not like the breath of her work that won her a Nobel Peace Prize, The 1619 Project, he intervened by having her position excused from the tenure vote. After going through the entire process, she received glowing recommendations from peers and the university staff.

I can not fathom how she would have the fortitude to work under those circumstances. It seemed like the scrutiny would be the foundation of her career at UNC. Once a vote finally happened, Dr. Jones decided to end her process and move and provide an HBCU with her talents and resources. Bravo!

I heard years ago to go where you are loved. And while having the support of the students and staff, dealing with the administration would have been futile. Her work would have been under a microscope. Who in the hell wants to deal with that.

But from the perspective of a Black Woman, I am in complete awe of her. Signals a paradigm shift as Nikole puts herself first.

We historically rarely put need in the front of the line. We take a back seat to our dreams daily. The stories are heard daily about how we are sanctified to bring the dreams of others to life. Not only is it our conditioning, but in our DNA.

Servant Syndrome is a term use. The only way to explain how we take on the burdens of society even though it is killing us.

Our mask cracks every time a Black Woman chooses herself. The myth of strong black women dissipates when we speak our truth.

The truth of the matter is our obligation to this nation must shift. It is time to discover the part of ourselves seeking liberation. We owe everyone nothing but the opportunity to love us fully. As we break through centuries standing in the background, we begin to straighten our crown and create our worlds centering ourselves.

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Black Women are the MVP’s!

There is a disturbing phenomenon happening in this country.

Until it is eradicated within our community, we will never truly move forward. I am hearing over and over again that Joe Biden shouldn’t pick a Black woman for Vice President. Because it will ensure a loss.

Black women are known to be the backbone of the Democratic Party. Time and time again we gather the children and head to vote. Not only vote, but at the highest percentage of all who vote for the Democratic Party.

We show up and bring our tribe. We organize, contribute money and, fight for the win. Yet even with insurmountable evidence of our drive and conviction, our abilities are constantly doubted.

In a discussion, someone said that a black woman as VP was just a prop. I responded by saying that you don’t want a prop but it’s ok for us to be a mule. Bell Hooks famously states that Black women are the mules of society and Malcolm X stated that the black woman is the most disrespected in the world.

Both statements are sadly true. Time and time again our needs and ambitions are pushed to the back of the bus. We are told that we should step aside so the best person can get the job. Why isn’t it a possibility that a Black woman is indeed the best person for the job? If we are doing the work of said job then give us the title, position, salary, and power that goes along with the work we are already doing.

The excuse is that white women won’t accept us. Where is the evidence? The two most revered women in the world are Oprah Winfrey and Michelle Obama. Let’s not forget Beyoncé, Janet, and Rhianna. Who at a moment’s notice could fill stadiums? That is not simply because of music but because of their power to connect with humanity.

Black Women have always understood the depths of this country. We know because we raised everyone in it. From birthing the workforce to being the wet nurse for the plantations owners children. We have spent generations in the shadows contributing to every corner of this nation.

And frankly, I’m fucking sick of it. Who better to address our needs of America than Black Women? Because of our innate disposition of nurturing those around us, we will automatically take care of the community.

The misogyny of it all is exhausting. Constantly being told next time. What about equal pay, next time. What about quality health care, next time. I’m mean how many next times have to pass by before it’s our time? Our time is now.

It’s getting close to the point where we sit this one out. One day you will all look around and wonder what happened, not to us, but this nation. Since y’all so concerned about how others will vote, how about we have a seat and, allow the unseasoned chicken to take over. Don’t worry about us, we will just head to the beaches of New Zealand or where ever The Rock is from and stop giving AF.

Continuing to take black women for granted is a huge mistake. We are the sages of a nation that is in much need of healing. With 98% of Black Women voting for democrats, it is clear that the next phase of the party must include leaders who reflect the base.

We are the heart of the party. If we are not taken care of in a reciprocal manner then this election will fail. Because the Democratic Party wins Black Women rock the fucking vote.

All of our future depends on how the democratic party takes care of us. We are no longer the Help. Treat us like the vital, important Queens we are by choosing a Black Women as Vice President.

Founder, Black Women Amplified

It’s hard to say goodbye to Kobe 820 867 monity

It’s hard to say goodbye to Kobe

What a tragedy! The loss of Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gigi and the other people who lost their lives in such a horrific accident. It has sent the world into a daze with the loss of one of it’s greatest heroes.

Now I have to admit upfront that I am not into sports as much as my counterparts but I do appreciate the work and sacrifice that it takes to be a champion. Especially devoting twenty years to a job that you love. He took Jordan’s game to the next level and forged his own path into the hearts and minds of generations to come.

My heart goes out to his wife Vanessa, his three daughters and family. Though I can’t imagine what she is going through, I know she knows that the community is surrounding her with love and protection.

The protection squad is out in full force and upfront after and interview that Gayle King is with WMBA star Lisa Leslie, Kobe’s longtime friend. Gayle asked about Kobe’s case ( you can google it) and the interwebverse went into hive mode and headed straight for Gayle.

Now I think Gayle was wrong. I think the question could have been asked to Kobe and that Leslie did not deserve the weight of that question. The question itself is layered and complicated. But to ask in the midst of a grieving process was way out of pocket. And sometimes you have to pick family over a job. Yes, Gayle has a job to do but a journalist with her level of power can choose how she frames her interviews. She is not a junior reporter of a local station nor is she not Auntie Gayle, Oprah’s best friend. Whatever you may think of them they are the Grand Dames of the black community. Now we are questioning if they actually deserve those places in our hearts. However we examine these questions for ourselves, threats are never acceptable.

Personally, I did not like the questions nor did I think it was the right time for the questions. Kobe has not been laid to rest and there is just a time when you have to respect the dead. Many arguments, discussions, and perspectives have gone around the globe about this situation and honestly, that is not the point of my commentary on the subject.

I really believe that there is a bigger conversation that we as a black community need to have. That conversation is about how we deal with our pain and grief.

After my initial WTF moment, I had to sit back and examine my thoughts on this. And although I am incredibly disappointed in Gayle I also realize that she is a black woman and still deserves to be protected. She fucked up but what is also fucked up is this cancel culture. Whatever we thought about Kobe’s case we allowed him to redeem himself and move forward with the community support.

Everyone deserves the space for redemption. Now we may let you stay over there on time out for a long time but we will watch your moves to see how you move in the future. That’s just truth.

Now to give context on where my thinking is coming from we have to look back to 1965-68 when the voting rights and civil rights acts were passed. We have been in this country for centuries but we have only been full US citizens for 55-56 years. And as a society that I call Black America, we are relatively young. A fifth of the age of the United States itself. Yes, we have been in America longer that the United States has been alive but our collective as free citizens is new.

With any new society and organization, we have to grow, create rules, boundaries and evolve. But I don’t know of any society in a matter of 55 years has been able to cultivate and evolve so quickly. We have created our own culture and way of life that encompasses a culmination of many different ways of life that reach all the way back to Africa. But also included the bloodlines of our captures and plantation owners. None of who black people are today is free of our lineage. Nor are we free the pain of our lineage.

The pain of our lineage is breathing strong in our veins. It is a pain that we have yet to deal with because life itself is moving to fast. We just keep pushing forward and look for joy in our life. And one of the greatest joys we have is watching someone like Kobe play a great game. Engaging in sports is bigger than just who won or lost it’s a pattern of success that many want to emulate.

But for Kobe fans he was iconic and a role model. The root of the word father is a pattern. And he patterned what the journey looked like for many boys and men who grew up without a father. Kobe is family. No matter if you love him for a moment or for a lifetime he is family. He is the crown prince of black America. And don’t anybody say nut-tin’ bout our baby. If you didn’t say it then don’t say it now.

We are grieving. The pain is still fresh our lips. There has not been a funeral or memorial service. Truthfully his wife may only do a memorial service. But we are grieving.

Not only for Kobe but we begin to question our own mortality. We begin to examine our own lives. We sit with more questions than answers. After hearing of Kobe’s death I had to lay down. Lay down in my thoughts recalling where I was when my mother passed, when my father passed and when my brother passed. They were the icons that I had to say goodbye too and keep moving forward.

In moving forward I did not know how to process my pain and grief. I did everything but what to feel it. No one knows what to say or do for me. It was hard to find my joy but years later I found it.

It was a long process but I had to face it head-on. And as a community, it is time we go through the process of learning how to deal with our pain. This pain and all that came before it.

From my perspective, that backlash towards Gayle has partly misdirected grief. And that is something that I can certainly relate to you. Waking up sad and still have to go to work and instead of dealing with my sadness, somehow during the day it is mutated into anger and it is directed at someone in my path that has nothing to do with my pain.

Kobe’s death has had a great impact on everyone plus all that is going on in our country has many in an unsettled place. But moving forward we have to learn how to communicate with each other in a better way that is more productive and moves us forward as a community.

We must begin dealing with your own trauma and loss. We can read books, go to therapy or join a support group. We focus so hard on staying positive but that is not working. We prove that by how easy it is to get shook. Critical thinking is essential but so is healing.

I did not expect this to be so long. Thank you if you got to this line. I really want us all to win and be one united family. And honestly, I hope we take all of this unity into the election and use this energy to change everyone’s lives for the better.

Blessings and Light