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The Black Woman Revolution has begun. 890 534 monity

The Black Woman Revolution has begun.

We sing at the top of our lungs the song from “Let it Go’ from the movie Frozen, but when a Black woman chooses herself, the music stops.

What a week for Black Women, from Olympic disappointments to show cancellations to ischemic life-changing decisions. We have been on full display. But the most profound announcement was the decisions Nikole Hannah-Jones made to join the facility of Howard University.

When I saw her perched in a seat across from Gayle King, I could feel what I was hoping to hear. Dr. Jones methodically unveiled her decision process to join Howard University.

When the story broke that she was the first person not to receive tenure, the internet blew up. She overqualified for the job and was pursued. She was to become the Knight Chair which has in the past since the 1980s included tenure. But because a donor did not like the breath of her work that won her a Nobel Peace Prize, The 1619 Project, he intervened by having her position excused from the tenure vote. After going through the entire process, she received glowing recommendations from peers and the university staff.

I can not fathom how she would have the fortitude to work under those circumstances. It seemed like the scrutiny would be the foundation of her career at UNC. Once a vote finally happened, Dr. Jones decided to end her process and move and provide an HBCU with her talents and resources. Bravo!

I heard years ago to go where you are loved. And while having the support of the students and staff, dealing with the administration would have been futile. Her work would have been under a microscope. Who in the hell wants to deal with that.

But from the perspective of a Black Woman, I am in complete awe of her. Signals a paradigm shift as Nikole puts herself first.

We historically rarely put need in the front of the line. We take a back seat to our dreams daily. The stories are heard daily about how we are sanctified to bring the dreams of others to life. Not only is it our conditioning, but in our DNA.

Servant Syndrome is a term use. The only way to explain how we take on the burdens of society even though it is killing us.

Our mask cracks every time a Black Woman chooses herself. The myth of strong black women dissipates when we speak our truth.

The truth of the matter is our obligation to this nation must shift. It is time to discover the part of ourselves seeking liberation. We owe everyone nothing but the opportunity to love us fully. As we break through centuries standing in the background, we begin to straighten our crown and create our worlds centering ourselves.

Black Women are the MVP’s! 1080 608 monity

Black Women are the MVP’s!

There is a disturbing phenomenon happening in this country.

Until it is eradicated within our community, we will never truly move forward. I am hearing over and over again that Joe Biden shouldn’t pick a Black woman for Vice President. Because it will ensure a loss.

Black women are known to be the backbone of the Democratic Party. Time and time again we gather the children and head to vote. Not only vote, but at the highest percentage of all who vote for the Democratic Party.

We show up and bring our tribe. We organize, contribute money and, fight for the win. Yet even with insurmountable evidence of our drive and conviction, our abilities are constantly doubted.

In a discussion, someone said that a black woman as VP was just a prop. I responded by saying that you don’t want a prop but it’s ok for us to be a mule. Bell Hooks famously states that Black women are the mules of society and Malcolm X stated that the black woman is the most disrespected in the world.

Both statements are sadly true. Time and time again our needs and ambitions are pushed to the back of the bus. We are told that we should step aside so the best person can get the job. Why isn’t it a possibility that a Black woman is indeed the best person for the job? If we are doing the work of said job then give us the title, position, salary, and power that goes along with the work we are already doing.

The excuse is that white women won’t accept us. Where is the evidence? The two most revered women in the world are Oprah Winfrey and Michelle Obama. Let’s not forget Beyoncé, Janet, and Rhianna. Who at a moment’s notice could fill stadiums? That is not simply because of music but because of their power to connect with humanity.

Black Women have always understood the depths of this country. We know because we raised everyone in it. From birthing the workforce to being the wet nurse for the plantations owners children. We have spent generations in the shadows contributing to every corner of this nation.

And frankly, I’m fucking sick of it. Who better to address our needs of America than Black Women? Because of our innate disposition of nurturing those around us, we will automatically take care of the community.

The misogyny of it all is exhausting. Constantly being told next time. What about equal pay, next time. What about quality health care, next time. I’m mean how many next times have to pass by before it’s our time? Our time is now.

It’s getting close to the point where we sit this one out. One day you will all look around and wonder what happened, not to us, but this nation. Since y’all so concerned about how others will vote, how about we have a seat and, allow the unseasoned chicken to take over. Don’t worry about us, we will just head to the beaches of New Zealand or where ever The Rock is from and stop giving AF.

Continuing to take black women for granted is a huge mistake. We are the sages of a nation that is in much need of healing. With 98% of Black Women voting for democrats, it is clear that the next phase of the party must include leaders who reflect the base.

We are the heart of the party. If we are not taken care of in a reciprocal manner then this election will fail. Because the Democratic Party wins Black Women rock the fucking vote.

All of our future depends on how the democratic party takes care of us. We are no longer the Help. Treat us like the vital, important Queens we are by choosing a Black Women as Vice President.

Monica,
Founder, Black Women Amplified

Today I Pause 400 267 monity

Today I Pause

Hey Queen,

When the world stopped, for many, it was a welcomed break. We were told that the virus would be in and out of here quickly and life would return back to normal. Now some five weeks later the world is realizing that the life we had before will become a shadowed memory. It seems that life will no longer be new nor will it ever be normal. As divine souls, we are learning how to adapt and adjust.

I have been working since I was 9 years old. Working at my father’s pharmacy at the front register selling everything from penny candy to toilet paper. We were literally the corner store. Walgreen before anyone ever heard of a wal or a greens. My job happened on the weekends, holidays, and summers. I learned to count money in my head and could calculate change perfectly in my head. Life was not simple but, it certainly seemed easier than now.

Now, I can’t say that I have gone without money because there were times when all we had was peanut butter bread and a bag of potatoes due to my parent’s divorce or my father’s business having to close because Walgreens moved up the street. Yes, the irony does not escape me.

But who would ever think that a pandemic would be the culprit of how the world is now. I have been doing my best to stay positive, but as days pass and people die, it gets harder and harder to find a smile. My mood is just solemn as I do my best not to fall deep into sadness.

Yes, I know in my heart that this will pass. I also know that this is a great time of innovation. Some of the most powerful companies out now started during the last recession. I know the numbers and stats. But this day seems like the realization that life is again going to be different.

I have a choice. I get to choose how I want it to be different. I get to choose if I fall off the side of a mountain or I climb to the next plateau. It is kind of a powerful place to know that its all on me. Today it seems heavy. Today the world seems heavy.

The saving grace of it all is that I do not have to carry it alone. The load is lighter when we all do it together.

But today I am mourning my life as I knew it while moving forward rebuilding my new world.

For a moment I am going to pause, lay down my crown, and simply cry.

Love and Love,

Monica Wisdom

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New Year! Make it Happy! 1068 600 monity

New Year! Make it Happy!

As we finish up the first month of the year, some of us are feeling like we need to recalibrate. Between impeachment hearings and the death of icons, this years beginning is full of twists and unfortunate turns.

It is important that no matter what is going on around us that we keep our peace within us. Peace is powerful but fragile if we allow outside influences to permeate our sacred spaces. It is important to have a space in your home that reflect the peace in your mind that you push to maintain.

Distractions are everywhere and it is easy to get off track. But if you have a space where you can get centered and grounded after a long day, your evening will be full of inspiration.

A great way to center yourself is to end your day with your journal. There are several ways to approach it. You can do a gratitude journal, which is something Oprah highly recommends. Even in the mist of a horrible day, it is good to sit and reflect on the good parts of the day as well as what was good about the bad parts. It will  help one to understand the power of seeing a silver lining in all things. Whether it is a lesson or an understanding of how to handle something in a better way, you can often find at least three things to be grateful about your day.

Another way to journal is by having a conversation with yourself. It is a great way to document your life and see you life in a new way. It is also a way to document how you handled situations in the past. Sometimes you  are your best teacher. You can see patterns and habits that are working and not working. It will help you course correct your journey if you are feeling off balance or overwhelmed.

You can also have a celebration entry journal. Often times we make a to-do list and we forget to acknowledge or accomplishments. We move forward with out celebrating.  Why can’t we give ourselves golds stars. We all have a little girl inside of us that just wants someone to say, ‘ Hey girl, you did great.” Begin to log your wins and by the end of the year you will see how much you actually did. Instead of trusting your memory and Instagram page you will have a detailed list of what your year looked like month to month. Then New Years Eve will be that much sweeter. List what you have overcome as well as what you have achieved on any given day.

Crafting your sacred space is personal. The only right way is your way. And there are plenty of places to look for inspiration.  Google will have you going down a rabbit hole so give yourself a limit.

Mine includes my family, candles, sage and other important item that I have collected in my life. It is up to you to make it your own and something that honors the peace that you desire in and for your life.

Have fun creating and mostly have a peaceful day,

Monica Wisdom, Founder Black Women Amplified

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Get you some good friends. 150 150 monity

Get you some good friends.

There is nothing better than having great friends. Offline of course.

Today was a snow day for me and I got a chance to spend almost 3 hours talking to one of my best friends. Talking on the phone has become this mystical occurrence in my life and for more than just lack of time. We know that at 50 we have deep commitments and time crunches. But today my clients cancelled which meant I have the day off from my main gig.

My friend sent me a youtube and I replied in my usual sarcasm and instead of our usual text banter her called. I answered the phone , he said 2 world and I busted out laughing as he proceeded to chin check me for my sarcasm. Almost 3 hours later of deep conversations and ridiculous banter our phones hung up on us. The nerve of Iphone.

But I tell you what, it was the best medicine ever. I am blessed to have 20 and 30 year friendships and no matter how far we move apart from each other, the connection still remains.

These are the kind of friendships that lift up your soul and open your heart. They challenge your thinking, hold up the mirror to your faults and love you with few conditions. It’s so amazing to have just joy through friendships even when the honesty is so brutal that you sometimes want to cry. But that is what real friends are for.

Real friends hold you accountable and pull the best out of you. Get you some real friends.

Peace and love,

Monica Wisdom

Founder, Black Women Amplified

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When They See Us? My Thoughts 150 150 monity

When They See Us? My Thoughts

Hey Sis,

I spent the weekend getting educated on being black in America. I watched the riveting movie ‘When They See Us’.  Then I watched ‘Reconstruction’, the Henry Louis Gates PBS special, about the period just after slavery.

NEW YORK, NEW YORK – MAY 20: Kevin Richardson, Antron Mccray, Raymond Santana Jr., Korey Wise, and Yusef Salaam attend the World Premiere of Netflix’s “When They See Us” at the Apollo Theater on May 20, 2019 in New York City. (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images)

This is America History that everyone should watch. Watching Reconstruction, I was able to see exactly how When They See Us happened. How a lie was cultivated and crafted into a truth shamelessly.

Intellectually I see the patterns clearly but emotionally I just don’t understand why? As I am sitting here typing this and words are escaping me. It’s really hard for me to comprehend the level of hatred and righteousness that it takes to destroy the lives of people just for the sake of self-preservation.

I can’t comprehend that level of evil justified through laws and actions plotted out to terrorize a group of people one can no longer own. They say we were not human but these inhuman acts beg the question, How do you define human?

Sometimes I think black folks are aliens who landed on the wrong planet. The level of pain and terror we have and continue to endure is unfathomable. Yet we still continue to express joy, love, forgiveness, empathy, and compassion. How?

Does melanin protect out spirits like an electronic shield? Are we superhuman or super something else? How? How do we continue to push for our humanity peacefully? How do we continue to thrive despite the pain, the lies, and the terror?

Even though I don’t get the folks who perpetrate these atrocities, I get less is us. How do we continue growing, loving and expressing joy? Where did we get this strength and resilience from? How are we so traumatized and continue to move forward?

Linda Fairstein is no different than bbq Becky. Elements of the Central Park 5 case is no different than the Emmit Till. Kalief Browder’s case directly connects to the horrors of the middle passage. It is a haunting continuation of the past.

Everyone should see When They See Us. Hopefully one day they will.

Stressed? 150 150 monity

Stressed?

 

Hey Sis,

I hope you had a grand weekend. I spent time with friends and chilled in my bed watching this quirky show called ‘Huge in France’ on Netflix. It’s a show all about rich people problems. Well, not really but that is the conclusion I came up with.

But mostly after a challenging day at work, I just needed breathing space. Not to give to many details, I had someone who challenged my character because I did not want to take them on as a client.

Being an entrepreneur can put one in some sticky positions sometimes. On one hand, you want to be of service but on the other had one has to make it completely clear that we are not servants.

As an expert in my field is not a title that I bestowed upon myself. It is a term that people that I have worked gave to me. I consider myself a constant learner. There is always more to learn and technology is constantly making improvements.

I have realized one thing I wish I had learned 25 years ago. Everyone does not deserve access to your shine. We all have a place where we shine. That thing that comes easy to us and is as simple as breathing. True many people do that same thing but the exact way you do it, sis, that is your shine.

We live from the notion that if you have a gift that it is your duty to share it with the world. Well, what I have come to realize is that really is not the case. Some folks like Coke and some folks like Pepsi. And 9 times out of ten you will never convince a Pepsi person that Coke is better.

My life had been a quest or liberation and the older I get the more I realize that true liberation is the freedom to say yes to yourself. This eliminates stress, people pleasing and spreading yourself thin.

The 2 things that God gave us is free will and choice, and in this life, I am beginning to choose me. My shine is worthy!

Thanks for listening! Chat soon!

Monica Wisdom,
Founder

BlackWomenAmplified (Click < to join our facebook page)

I am a Black Woman 400 267 monity

I am a Black Woman

I do not like the term People of Color. Because many times the term is used but black folks are not included. I had an entire interaction with the Thinkific people on Instagram because they are having an online summit with all ‘Women of Color’ which includes black women. That’s fantastic. But I asked them if they hire black women. She went through all the company does for diversity and by the end of the conversation, my question had finally been answered.

No, they had not hired one American black woman or not one black Canadian woman. The reason I ask the question is that often black women are used to promoting and selling a product but we are not included as vendors or employees.

Our black girl magic sells ish but the economics has to be reciprocal. Companies have to be called out. Because if your diversity program is not truly inclusive then why have one. This is everyone’s responsibility.

Read it for yourself. All of these stats but nada. Smh

I have no issue that the summit is happening. Let’s understand that black women spend money and that’s why companies are courting our business. Does it extend our brand, of course, but until we have a stake in the profits that our magic creates, we will continue to fall behind economically as a community.

(let me be clear when I say black women I mean indigenous black women who are descendants of the trans-Atlantic slave trade)

Monica Wisdom,

Founder, Black Women Amplified

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Hey Sis, Welcome 275 183 monity

Hey Sis, Welcome

Hey Sis,

I just wanted to stop by and tell you why I created this space for us. As I walked through the blogosphere, I couldn’t find something that spoke my language. I am a Gen x nerdy book loving fashionable lover of art who loves dinner with my girls and nights with my man. I love house music, poetry, jazz, soul, travel, belongs to the Rhythm Nation and breaths hip-hop. Woo, we are a lot and from my point of view, it’s a good thing.

The voice of the Gen X Black Women is one that seems to be carved out of every conversation. Like we are the adults in the playroom of life. But when things need to be straightened up we become the cavalry armed with a cell phone, note pad, and a strong sisterhood.

Welp, it is time to break out of the background and free ourselves from the background and restore our vitality fully expressed.

Black Women Amplified is the place for our expression. Where are we share ourselves fearlessly and unapologetically! We were raised to be humble and to be of service but dammit we are not servants waiting on who needs us most.

We are here and we got something to say. In Fact, because our generation of innovators, we have the instructions, knowledge, and wisdom to course correct all the things. But before we get to recalibrating societies GPS, we are going to have a bit of fun ourselves. Responsible for only our dreams and desires.

All are welcome to enjoy our journey and join along the way. But hey we are about to reclaim our space and have a bit of healing, restoration, and fun. Sometimes laughing, sometimes crying but all times growing.

Share with your crew and enjoy the ride. Welcome to Black Women Amplified.