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The Black Woman Revolution has begun. 890 534 monity

The Black Woman Revolution has begun.

We sing at the top of our lungs the song from “Let it Go’ from the movie Frozen, but when a Black woman chooses herself, the music stops.

What a week for Black Women, from Olympic disappointments to show cancellations to ischemic life-changing decisions. We have been on full display. But the most profound announcement was the decisions Nikole Hannah-Jones made to join the facility of Howard University.

When I saw her perched in a seat across from Gayle King, I could feel what I was hoping to hear. Dr. Jones methodically unveiled her decision process to join Howard University.

When the story broke that she was the first person not to receive tenure, the internet blew up. She overqualified for the job and was pursued. She was to become the Knight Chair which has in the past since the 1980s included tenure. But because a donor did not like the breath of her work that won her a Nobel Peace Prize, The 1619 Project, he intervened by having her position excused from the tenure vote. After going through the entire process, she received glowing recommendations from peers and the university staff.

I can not fathom how she would have the fortitude to work under those circumstances. It seemed like the scrutiny would be the foundation of her career at UNC. Once a vote finally happened, Dr. Jones decided to end her process and move and provide an HBCU with her talents and resources. Bravo!

I heard years ago to go where you are loved. And while having the support of the students and staff, dealing with the administration would have been futile. Her work would have been under a microscope. Who in the hell wants to deal with that.

But from the perspective of a Black Woman, I am in complete awe of her. Signals a paradigm shift as Nikole puts herself first.

We historically rarely put need in the front of the line. We take a back seat to our dreams daily. The stories are heard daily about how we are sanctified to bring the dreams of others to life. Not only is it our conditioning, but in our DNA.

Servant Syndrome is a term use. The only way to explain how we take on the burdens of society even though it is killing us.

Our mask cracks every time a Black Woman chooses herself. The myth of strong black women dissipates when we speak our truth.

The truth of the matter is our obligation to this nation must shift. It is time to discover the part of ourselves seeking liberation. We owe everyone nothing but the opportunity to love us fully. As we break through centuries standing in the background, we begin to straighten our crown and create our worlds centering ourselves.

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FYI Eva Longoria

As Black Women, we come from a long historical relationship with the Democratic Party. We also have a long history with Joe Biden. When I heard the statements from Eva Longoria, I found them to be dismissive, reductive, and disrespectful. She expressed her kitchen table talk publicly. I found her response more of an explanation than an apology. One that we hear time and time again from the white community.

I get that there is an internal anti blackness challenge within the Latin community, but this ain’t that. She specifically named a black woman and the black community in Georgia. And specifically said that Latina women were the ‘real’ heroines of this election.

Say what now? Eva and her comrades started an organization 2 or so months ago called She Se Puede to get out the Latina vote in this election. I think it is wonderful. I was extremely excited to see Latin women join the cause of supporting the Democratic Party so boldly.

I would listen to their Instagram lives listening to their issues and deep desire to see the current occupant out is office. The issues are valid but seemed distinctly different from that of black Americans. I didn’t hear talk of police brutality or systemic oppression or racism.

I know that within the Latino community there is a deep presence of anti blackness and it’s a deep seeded issue. Colonization had done a number on folks for generations. But there comes a point when people have to take a look inside and dismantle the white supremacy within. People do not understand its impact of communities of color against each other. That is its grand design to separate us and keep us divided.

The division is incredibly amplified with the statements Eva made during her interview. It was really so unnecessary and hurtful. Several people have come to her defense after she issued an explanation of her statement. I get it, my girls would defend me too. But to ask black women to move on without a full understanding of why this occurred, it just isn’t possible.

Black Women are not here to make to others feel comfortable in the name of unity. We have the innate ability to occupy more that one space at a time. We are used to dealing with racist, reductive and racists statements while winning. There is nothing more evident than a big win for Joe Biden.

Joe said he would pick a women vice president and Black Women across the country demanded it be a black women specifically. Several great candidates were on the short list and ultimately Kamala Harris was the choice. Once the choice was made black women from every coalition across America got busy. Working hours upon hours in what every lane they were in. From posting information to showing up at everything possible to register people and get out the vote. We are not new to this. Organizing is what we do. Stacey Abrams is the icing on the cake but she is part of a mighty oak tree that ignited to push Joe across the finish line.

Everyone kicked in from celebrities to grass roots. It was a broad coalition but at the heart of it was black women. People are seemed to be primed and ready to belittle little what we do and how we do it. But at the heart of it, most do not understand it. You do not have to but one must respect it. Saying that Latina women are the ‘REAL’ heroines of this election was a kick in the gut of inclusion.

It is not enough to put out an explanation but on must do a deep dive into their own mind to understand why you even said it. I mean really? Ouch! We cannot move forward in unity until the remnants of white supremacy are up rooted and examined. And we cannot have people asking black women to move on from a conversion we did not start. And , Afro Latina women cannot accept apologies for Black Women. This is not about the internal division within the latin culture. This is about that chasm between Black American Women and Latin Women.

The only moving on we can do to bring true unity is moving on to an honest conversion about why this even occurred. Unity cannot happen with the wounds of colonization festering beneath the surface. And I understand because for years Black Women have said what about us and we are finally getting recognition for our work. This can be intimidating but it’s only coming after a long legacy of activism and action that has been in play long before this election. We didn’t just start singing We Shall Overcome a couple of months ago.

Even during the civil rights days the accomplishments of Black Women were pushed to the back of the bus. Now we drive the bus and own the company. This is something folks will have to get use to because we will no longer be the mules of society, as bell hooks describes us. We are the leaders we have always been, now you just have to get used to seeing it.

Put some respect on our name B L A C K W O M A N !

Monica Wisdom,
Founder, Black Women Amplified

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Black Women are the MVP’s! 1080 608 monity

Black Women are the MVP’s!

There is a disturbing phenomenon happening in this country.

Until it is eradicated within our community, we will never truly move forward. I am hearing over and over again that Joe Biden shouldn’t pick a Black woman for Vice President. Because it will ensure a loss.

Black women are known to be the backbone of the Democratic Party. Time and time again we gather the children and head to vote. Not only vote, but at the highest percentage of all who vote for the Democratic Party.

We show up and bring our tribe. We organize, contribute money and, fight for the win. Yet even with insurmountable evidence of our drive and conviction, our abilities are constantly doubted.

In a discussion, someone said that a black woman as VP was just a prop. I responded by saying that you don’t want a prop but it’s ok for us to be a mule. Bell Hooks famously states that Black women are the mules of society and Malcolm X stated that the black woman is the most disrespected in the world.

Both statements are sadly true. Time and time again our needs and ambitions are pushed to the back of the bus. We are told that we should step aside so the best person can get the job. Why isn’t it a possibility that a Black woman is indeed the best person for the job? If we are doing the work of said job then give us the title, position, salary, and power that goes along with the work we are already doing.

The excuse is that white women won’t accept us. Where is the evidence? The two most revered women in the world are Oprah Winfrey and Michelle Obama. Let’s not forget Beyoncé, Janet, and Rhianna. Who at a moment’s notice could fill stadiums? That is not simply because of music but because of their power to connect with humanity.

Black Women have always understood the depths of this country. We know because we raised everyone in it. From birthing the workforce to being the wet nurse for the plantations owners children. We have spent generations in the shadows contributing to every corner of this nation.

And frankly, I’m fucking sick of it. Who better to address our needs of America than Black Women? Because of our innate disposition of nurturing those around us, we will automatically take care of the community.

The misogyny of it all is exhausting. Constantly being told next time. What about equal pay, next time. What about quality health care, next time. I’m mean how many next times have to pass by before it’s our time? Our time is now.

It’s getting close to the point where we sit this one out. One day you will all look around and wonder what happened, not to us, but this nation. Since y’all so concerned about how others will vote, how about we have a seat and, allow the unseasoned chicken to take over. Don’t worry about us, we will just head to the beaches of New Zealand or where ever The Rock is from and stop giving AF.

Continuing to take black women for granted is a huge mistake. We are the sages of a nation that is in much need of healing. With 98% of Black Women voting for democrats, it is clear that the next phase of the party must include leaders who reflect the base.

We are the heart of the party. If we are not taken care of in a reciprocal manner then this election will fail. Because the Democratic Party wins Black Women rock the fucking vote.

All of our future depends on how the democratic party takes care of us. We are no longer the Help. Treat us like the vital, important Queens we are by choosing a Black Women as Vice President.

Monica,
Founder, Black Women Amplified

Who are those people? 500 333 monity

Who are those people?

Hey Queen,

Have you ever wonder what it meant when the elders told us to be careful of the company we keep? I never really thought much about it until recently. And when I say recently, I mean today.

The older we get our inner circles to get smaller and smaller. But the older we get so do our ideas and desires. We say we want a more simple life but is that what we really want or do we just want to streamline it. Less complicated so to speak.

It is entirely possible to have a grand expansive life without it being complicated. And by completed I mean giving a fuck what others think about your life.

We spend most of our time in conflict with overworking ourselves trying to figure out others will like what we are doing or saying. The acknowledgment of others seems to be our ruling planet. It is the energy that we revolve around.

It determines how we speak, what we say, how we dress, and even what food we eat. We have such a deep desire to belong that we will join any tribe that accepts us.

I get it, I was always a different kind of kid. I never liked doing normal girl things. And to this day I hate the mall. Online shopping was a gift from heaven. Kinda/!?!?! But as a kid, I went to the mall because that is where all the kids went and I wanted to belong. Honestly, I never really fit in. I was always too something. To big, to black, not black enough, too boring. It was painful and kids these days call it bullying but for me it just made me work harder to fit in.

It was exhausting and I never felt comfortable in my own skin. Overall it helped me build a tough skin and character. I learned to speak up for myself and find my own tribe.

My tribe turned out to be a group of artists who spoke my same artsy language and thought about weird shit all of the time. It was amazing. I could be myself and fully grow into the person I was born to be.

But along the way, I got lost again. I fell in love with a corporate dude and his world was so interesting to me. He was so interesting to me. Smart, fine, and powerful. I loved being on his arm at all of these fancy functions. But when I look back I also realized that in order to fit in, I dimmed my light. I went from a bright peacock to a suit-wearing bore. I became a complete bore.

I didn’t realize what it was full but I realize that when I was away from the chicken dinner, fancy people world, my heart soared. When I could go to the art museum and stare at paint for an hour or sit at a cafe riding a sexy novel about nothing, joy was everywhere.

It is amazing how the people we surround ourselves with can impact how we see the world. It is not a drastic change but bit by bit we become something or someone unrecognizable. That can be good or it can be bad. If we are doing it to live our authentic dreams then it can be a great decision but if we are doing it to fit in and be accepted, then not so much.

If you look around and you find that you are doing and saying things that don’t feel good, you will know what road you choose.

Every day is a new opportunity to make a new choice.

Love and light
Monica Wisdom
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Pushing Play 275 183 monity

Pushing Play

Hey Queen,

Yesterday I paused but today I am pressing play. It is amazing how a night of reflection and rest can rejuvenate. It all became clear that it was time for me to tap into my inner genius in order to rebuild my life within this new world that is evolving.

One person that I have been watching evolve in this ‘Rona Era’ is Eric Roberson. (If you don’t know who he is checking our www.ericrobersonmusic.com) I knew he was smart, gifted, and an old school hustler. But, as society began to shut down, Eric slipped deep into his genius and by the tools of technology, we were all able to watch his process.

I have always said that black men are alchemists. Observing men in my life create something out of nothing has always been a source of inspiration. But his was a whole new level. He was like a magician pulling mastery out of one of his many hats.

In four weeks I observed him create, produce and release an album, promote and grow his private membership, teach a music class online at Berkely, create Vlog cast, do interviews, and put out a music video. Wait there’s more. All while homeschooling his three sons and being there for his beautiful wife Shaun. I am exhausted but just talking about it.

We all have an inner genius. It is available to us at all times. It is that tingle or idea that comes through you. It is our internal GPS that gives clear direction on where to go next. In order to activate it is important to tap into it through prayer, meditation, and pure trust.

When you trust this guidance and activate it, pure magic happens. One will look up and accomplish nor in 28 days than many achieve in a lifetime. As the saying goes, “let go and let God.” Letting go of your ego, insecurities, and pride free up space allowing God’s guidance to flow through you. I believe that most of us here this guidance but talk ourselves out of letting it flow.

As Eric poured his musical gift all over the internet, he solidified his position as the King of Soul up in these streets. His business savvy is admirable and worthy of a Forbes cover. ( see what I did there)

Love and Light,

Monica Wisdom,

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Today I Pause 400 267 monity

Today I Pause

Hey Queen,

When the world stopped, for many, it was a welcomed break. We were told that the virus would be in and out of here quickly and life would return back to normal. Now some five weeks later the world is realizing that the life we had before will become a shadowed memory. It seems that life will no longer be new nor will it ever be normal. As divine souls, we are learning how to adapt and adjust.

I have been working since I was 9 years old. Working at my father’s pharmacy at the front register selling everything from penny candy to toilet paper. We were literally the corner store. Walgreen before anyone ever heard of a wal or a greens. My job happened on the weekends, holidays, and summers. I learned to count money in my head and could calculate change perfectly in my head. Life was not simple but, it certainly seemed easier than now.

Now, I can’t say that I have gone without money because there were times when all we had was peanut butter bread and a bag of potatoes due to my parent’s divorce or my father’s business having to close because Walgreens moved up the street. Yes, the irony does not escape me.

But who would ever think that a pandemic would be the culprit of how the world is now. I have been doing my best to stay positive, but as days pass and people die, it gets harder and harder to find a smile. My mood is just solemn as I do my best not to fall deep into sadness.

Yes, I know in my heart that this will pass. I also know that this is a great time of innovation. Some of the most powerful companies out now started during the last recession. I know the numbers and stats. But this day seems like the realization that life is again going to be different.

I have a choice. I get to choose how I want it to be different. I get to choose if I fall off the side of a mountain or I climb to the next plateau. It is kind of a powerful place to know that its all on me. Today it seems heavy. Today the world seems heavy.

The saving grace of it all is that I do not have to carry it alone. The load is lighter when we all do it together.

But today I am mourning my life as I knew it while moving forward rebuilding my new world.

For a moment I am going to pause, lay down my crown, and simply cry.

Love and Love,

Monica Wisdom

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Get you some good friends. 150 150 monity

Get you some good friends.

There is nothing better than having great friends. Offline of course.

Today was a snow day for me and I got a chance to spend almost 3 hours talking to one of my best friends. Talking on the phone has become this mystical occurrence in my life and for more than just lack of time. We know that at 50 we have deep commitments and time crunches. But today my clients cancelled which meant I have the day off from my main gig.

My friend sent me a youtube and I replied in my usual sarcasm and instead of our usual text banter her called. I answered the phone , he said 2 world and I busted out laughing as he proceeded to chin check me for my sarcasm. Almost 3 hours later of deep conversations and ridiculous banter our phones hung up on us. The nerve of Iphone.

But I tell you what, it was the best medicine ever. I am blessed to have 20 and 30 year friendships and no matter how far we move apart from each other, the connection still remains.

These are the kind of friendships that lift up your soul and open your heart. They challenge your thinking, hold up the mirror to your faults and love you with few conditions. It’s so amazing to have just joy through friendships even when the honesty is so brutal that you sometimes want to cry. But that is what real friends are for.

Real friends hold you accountable and pull the best out of you. Get you some real friends.

Peace and love,

Monica Wisdom

Founder, Black Women Amplified

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I am a Black Woman

I do not like the term People of Color. Because many times the term is used but black folks are not included. I had an entire interaction with the Thinkific people on Instagram because they are having an online summit with all ‘Women of Color’ which includes black women. That’s fantastic. But I asked them if they hire black women. She went through all the company does for diversity and by the end of the conversation, my question had finally been answered.

No, they had not hired one American black woman or not one black Canadian woman. The reason I ask the question is that often black women are used to promoting and selling a product but we are not included as vendors or employees.

Our black girl magic sells ish but the economics has to be reciprocal. Companies have to be called out. Because if your diversity program is not truly inclusive then why have one. This is everyone’s responsibility.

Read it for yourself. All of these stats but nada. Smh

I have no issue that the summit is happening. Let’s understand that black women spend money and that’s why companies are courting our business. Does it extend our brand, of course, but until we have a stake in the profits that our magic creates, we will continue to fall behind economically as a community.

(let me be clear when I say black women I mean indigenous black women who are descendants of the trans-Atlantic slave trade)

Monica Wisdom,

Founder, Black Women Amplified

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