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Do Black Women have Imposter Syndrome?  1068 600 monity

Do Black Women have Imposter Syndrome? 

I have been joining a group of women at Clubhouse and we are having room conversations every Monday. One of our topics was Imposter Syndrome. The idea of ‘IS’ never really sat well with my soul. It felt like we were saying that we are imagining what is happening around us or things are just happening in our heads. 

Do black people have ‘IS’ or is something else going on. But Is it all in our heads? If there are barriers? 

We live in a country that we build with the absence of respect and acknowledgment of the magnitude of our contributions. The levels of oppression woven into our daily existence are profoundly real. 

To remain safe we are conditioned to keep our heads down and just do the work we need to do to survive another day. Navigating this along with our conditioning can give us a particular disposition. 

We have to examine the reality we deal with to fully understand my question.

I am not at all saying that is it not a real syndrome it may be but I don’t know if it is our syndrome as Black Women.  

Yes, we all have opportunities in front of us. And if we work hard, well we get there, highly possible. Does everyone have these opportunities? Yes. We can all become a doctor or a mogul or a teacher or even open a coffee shop. 

 

Why are of all doctors only 2% of all doctors are Black Women doctors? It’s not about the opportunity. Because the schools are there, everyone fills out the same application but are the answers to the questions the same for everyone. Each answer represents the road to medical school. 

Black women make 63 cents to every dollar a white man makes. Many are on a single income. That makes paying for university difficult and complicated. 

The wage gaps are a systemic issue that impacts our road in many ways. From where we live to how we live. Because affordability of our dreams has a mighty cost. 

I recall when I started in the beauty industry, I wanted to become a national educator. Stand on the big stages, educate the big crowds and make the big money. My road to my dream was more challenging because of my skin color. 

I would analyze everything about the haircuts. I wanted to go to one of his advanced educational centers but my family couldn’t afford to send me and there were no scholarships. His school was in London and the sheer idea of learning from him got me high. It was a dream deferred for a young black girl from the Midwest. 

To become his peer was pure fantasy and a beacon for my career in the hair industry. But my road, with my talent, gifts, and drive was not the same as my white peers. 

The cognitive dissidence of understanding the depths of systemic racism has us clinging to the idea that imposter syndrome is our plight. It’s not. It’s a way to bypass the real monster because of its penetrating pain which becomes toxins in our DNA. 

The full understanding of what I am saying is that Black Women do not specifically have imposter syndrome. We have what I call, Systemic Racism Syndrome. It is very real and is carried through generations. 

Systemic Racism is a visible and invisible boundary that is threaded in the tapestry of this nation conditioning us to shrink our brilliance to be safe and accepting. We feel like we don’t belong, not because we imagine it, but because through actions and oppression we have been told that we do not belong. 

We are constantly pushing past but a system designed to hold us back. But through it all, we continue to move forward navigating past doors and building our roads. It is a difficult challenge that quite frankly is harming us in insurmountable ways. This is why radical self-care is imperative. We must shift our focus and center ourselves to bring harmony and release that dis… ease of racism. 

Our resilience as Black Women is our superpower but to fully flower in our gifts and purpose we must fully comprehend the blocks in our way and move past internalizing them as imposter syndrome. 

Because it’s real, Sis. 

Be Well, 

Monica Wisdom, 

Founder, Black Women Amplified 

Chief Strategist, Bold New Moves

I am a Black Woman 400 267 monity

I am a Black Woman

I do not like the term People of Color. Because many times the term is used but black folks are not included. I had an entire interaction with the Thinkific people on Instagram because they are having an online summit with all ‘Women of Color’ which includes black women. That’s fantastic. But I asked them if they hire black women. She went through all the company does for diversity and by the end of the conversation, my question had finally been answered.

No, they had not hired one American black woman or not one black Canadian woman. The reason I ask the question is that often black women are used to promoting and selling a product but we are not included as vendors or employees.

Our black girl magic sells ish but the economics has to be reciprocal. Companies have to be called out. Because if your diversity program is not truly inclusive then why have one. This is everyone’s responsibility.

Read it for yourself. All of these stats but nada. Smh

I have no issue that the summit is happening. Let’s understand that black women spend money and that’s why companies are courting our business. Does it extend our brand, of course, but until we have a stake in the profits that our magic creates, we will continue to fall behind economically as a community.

(let me be clear when I say black women I mean indigenous black women who are descendants of the trans-Atlantic slave trade)

Monica Wisdom,

Founder, Black Women Amplified

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I Finally Understand Millennial’s 500 333 monity

I Finally Understand Millennial’s

I finally get it. I just had the biggest aha moment. Millennials have always mystified me. As a deep thinker, I just couldn’t seem to grasp how they think.
I never understood a millennial. I just passed them off as entitled and angry for no apparent reason. Well, that’s kinda true. I mean why they so mad??!?

But it just came to me that they were born to dismantle the system. All of the systems designed to feed capitalism and oppression. They ain’t putting up with no isms. No racism, no sexism, classism, no phobias and no controls of any kind. They are truly the hopes of the hippie generation manifested.

Think about it. They have no loyalty to corporate America, yet they make more money than we did at that age. They have no problem living at home past 18, we were in a hurry to leave. They are not getting married, we dreamed about Prince Charming.

They are not interested in the whole idea of the American Dream because they have dreams too. And they don’t wait to go for them. I mean some these kids are becoming millionaires before 30. And they see the world as their friend.

Everything that we hold dear they think is just stupid. They have created their own language through hashtags, emojis in a
140 characters. And why dress up when your job happens to be on your couch. Hashtag laptop life. Hashtag pants-free lifestyle.
For them the ideas we were raised on completely escape them. So instead of conformity and assimilation, they just do what they want when they want. Cause they can.

But here is where they are lacking, life experience, historical context, and wisdom. Because they were raised by overprotective parents they never got a chance to fall and get back up on their own. They were raised in a bubble of convenience. I mean have you ever heard a millennial tell the ‘I had to walk 5 miles to school story?’ Nope….. Because their parents drove them to school. They never had a chance to fail, make mistakes or even lose because everyone got awarded.

So, unfortunately, I think that when their bubble burst they will not know how to handle the pain and pressure of it all. Hashtag it gets better. But even with that, they are changing things in huge ways on their own terms. Our job now is to teach them how life happens and to share our wisdom with that they can learn to get back up when they fall….. and let them fall.

It’s time to pull them in and let them understand the power of resilience and failing. It’s not too late to tell them how hard you had it. Because the bad part of us generation x’rs is that we have perfection issues. We want everything to look perfect…(but that’s another conversation)

Whelp, I finally get them and I have a whole new appreciation for millennials. And I hope they continue to dismantle these antiquated oppressive systems but also learn that the things we hold dear are not all bad.

(Things I think about when I should be asleep. You’re welcome! Monica Wisdom)

 

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