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The Black Woman Revolution has begun. 890 534 monity

The Black Woman Revolution has begun.

We sing at the top of our lungs the song from “Let it Go’ from the movie Frozen, but when a Black woman chooses herself, the music stops.

What a week for Black Women, from Olympic disappointments to show cancellations to ischemic life-changing decisions. We have been on full display. But the most profound announcement was the decisions Nikole Hannah-Jones made to join the facility of Howard University.

When I saw her perched in a seat across from Gayle King, I could feel what I was hoping to hear. Dr. Jones methodically unveiled her decision process to join Howard University.

When the story broke that she was the first person not to receive tenure, the internet blew up. She overqualified for the job and was pursued. She was to become the Knight Chair which has in the past since the 1980s included tenure. But because a donor did not like the breath of her work that won her a Nobel Peace Prize, The 1619 Project, he intervened by having her position excused from the tenure vote. After going through the entire process, she received glowing recommendations from peers and the university staff.

I can not fathom how she would have the fortitude to work under those circumstances. It seemed like the scrutiny would be the foundation of her career at UNC. Once a vote finally happened, Dr. Jones decided to end her process and move and provide an HBCU with her talents and resources. Bravo!

I heard years ago to go where you are loved. And while having the support of the students and staff, dealing with the administration would have been futile. Her work would have been under a microscope. Who in the hell wants to deal with that.

But from the perspective of a Black Woman, I am in complete awe of her. Signals a paradigm shift as Nikole puts herself first.

We historically rarely put need in the front of the line. We take a back seat to our dreams daily. The stories are heard daily about how we are sanctified to bring the dreams of others to life. Not only is it our conditioning, but in our DNA.

Servant Syndrome is a term use. The only way to explain how we take on the burdens of society even though it is killing us.

Our mask cracks every time a Black Woman chooses herself. The myth of strong black women dissipates when we speak our truth.

The truth of the matter is our obligation to this nation must shift. It is time to discover the part of ourselves seeking liberation. We owe everyone nothing but the opportunity to love us fully. As we break through centuries standing in the background, we begin to straighten our crown and create our worlds centering ourselves.

It’s hard to say goodbye to Kobe 150 150 monity

It’s hard to say goodbye to Kobe

What a tragedy! The loss of Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gigi and the other people who lost their lives in such a horrific accident. It has sent the world into a daze with the loss of one of it’s greatest heroes.

Now I have to admit up front that I am not into sports as much as my counterparts, but I do appreciate the work and sacrifice that it takes to be a champion. Especially devoting twenty years to a jobs that you love. He took Jordan’s game to the next level and forged his own path into the hearts and minds of generations to come.

My heart goes out to his wife Vanessa, his three daughter and family. Though I can’t imagine what she is going through, I know she knows that the community is surrounding her with love and protection.

The protection squad is out in full force and up front after and interview that Gayle King is with WMBA star Lisa Leslie, Kobe’s longtime friend. Gayle asked about Kobe’s case ( you can google it) and the interwebverse went into hive mode and headed straight for Gayle.

Now I think Gayle was wrong. I think the question could have been asked to Kobe and that Leslie did not deserve the weight of that question. The question itself is layered and complicated. But to ask in the mist of a grieving process was way out of pocket. And sometimes you have to pick family over job. Yes, Gayle has a job to do but a journalist with her level of power can choose how she frames her interviews. She is not a junior reporter of a local station nor is she not Auntie Gayle, Oprahs best friend. What ever you may think of them they are the Grand Dames of the black community. Now we are questioning if they actually deserve those places in our heart. How ever we examine these questions for ourselves, threats are never acceptable.

Personally, I did not like the questions nor did I think it was the right time for the questions. Kobe has not been laid to rest and there is just a time when you have to respect the dead. Many argument, discussions and perspective have gone around the globe about this situation and honestly that is not the point of my commentary on the subject.

I really believe that there is a bigger conversation that us as a black community need to have. That conversation is about how we deal with our pain and grief.

After my initial WTF moment I had to sit back and examine my thoughts on this. And although I am incredible disappointed in Gayle I also realize that she is a black woman and still deserves to be protected. She fucked up but what is also fucked up is this cancel culture. What ever we thought about Kobe’s case we allowed him to redeem himself and move forward with the community support.

Everyone deserves the space for redemption. Now we may let you stay over there on time out for a long time but we will watch your moves to see how you move in the future. That’s just truth.

Now to give context on where my thinking is coming from we have to look back to 1965-68 when the voting rights and civil rights acts were passed. We have been in this country for centuries but we have only been full US citizens for 55-56 years. And as a society that I call Black America, we are relatively young. A fifth of the age of the United states itself. Yes, we have been in America longer that the United States has been alive but our collective as free citizens is new.

With any new society and organization we have to grow, create rules, boundaries and evolve. But I don’t know of any society in a matter of 55 years has been able to cultivate and evolve so quickly. We have created our own culture and way of life that encompasses a culmination of many different ways of life that reach all the way back to Africa. But also included the bloodlines of our captures and plantation owners. None of who black people are today is free of our lineage. Nor are we free the pain of our lineage.

The pain of our lineage is breathing strong in our veins. It is a pain that we have yet to deal with because life itself is moving to fast. We just keep pushing forward and look for joy in our life. And one of the greatest joys we have is watching someone like Kobe play a great game. Engaging in sports is bigger that just who won or lost it’s a pattern of success that many want to emulate.

But for Kobe fans he was iconic and a role model. The root of the word father is pattern. And he patterned what the journey looked like for many boys and men who grew up without a father. Kobe is family. No matter if you love him for a moment or for a lifetime he is family. He is the crown prince of black America. And don’t no body say nut-tin’ bout our baby. If you didn’t say it then don’t say it now.

We are grieving. The pain is still fresh our lips. There has not been a funeral or memorial service. Truthfully his wife may only do a memorial service. But we are grieving.

Not only for Kobe but we begin to question our own mortality. We begin to examine our own lives. We sit with more questions than answers. After hearing of Kobe’s death I had to lay down. Lay down in my thoughts recalling where I was when my mother passed, when my father passed and when my brother passed. They were my icons that I had to say goodbye too and keep moving forward.

In moving forward I did not know how to process my pain and grief. I did everything but what to feel it. No one know what to say or do for me. It was hard to find my joy but years later I found it.

It was a long process but I had to face it head on. And as a community, it is time we go through the process of learning how to deal with our pain. This pain and all that came before it.

From my perspective that backlash towards Gayle was partly misdirected grief. And that is something that I can certainly related you. Waking up sad and still have to go to work and instead of dealing with my sadness, somehow during the day it is mutated into anger and it is directed at a someone in my path that has nothing to do with my pain.

Kobe’s death has had a great impact on everyone plus all that is going on in our country has many in an unsettled place. But moving forward we have to learn how to communicate to each other in a better way that is more productive and moves us forwards as a community. I

This beings with dealing with the person in the mirror. Really dealing with your own trauma and loss. We can read books, go to therapy or join a support group. We focus so hard on staying positive but that is not working. We prove that by how easy it is to get shook. Critical thinking is essential but so is healing.

I did not expect this to be so long. Thank you if you got to this line. I really want us all to win and be one united family. And honestly I hope we take all of this unity into the election and use this energy to change everyone’s lives for the better.

Blessings and Light

MonicaWisdom

I am a Black Woman 400 267 monity

I am a Black Woman

I do not like the term People of Color. Because many times the term is used but black folks are not included. I had an entire interaction with the Thinkific people on Instagram because they are having an online summit with all ‘Women of Color’ which includes black women. That’s fantastic. But I asked them if they hire black women. She went through all the company does for diversity and by the end of the conversation, my question had finally been answered.

No, they had not hired one American black woman or not one black Canadian woman. The reason I ask the question is that often black women are used to promoting and selling a product but we are not included as vendors or employees.

Our black girl magic sells ish but the economics has to be reciprocal. Companies have to be called out. Because if your diversity program is not truly inclusive then why have one. This is everyone’s responsibility.

Read it for yourself. All of these stats but nada. Smh

I have no issue that the summit is happening. Let’s understand that black women spend money and that’s why companies are courting our business. Does it extend our brand, of course, but until we have a stake in the profits that our magic creates, we will continue to fall behind economically as a community.

(let me be clear when I say black women I mean indigenous black women who are descendants of the trans-Atlantic slave trade)

Monica Wisdom,

Founder, Black Women Amplified

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Unraveling Racism Within 466 600 monity

Unraveling Racism Within

We are still in the eye of the storm when it comes to talking about race in America. Unraveling race is a complicated intertwined mix of legacy; myths and emotions that center around the perspective of those that are courageous enough to have the conversation.

Personally I love and hate talking about the subject because it is so ingrained in my life’s experience that it can be overwhelming. Experiences of race has left me broken and strong at the same time. My life’s personal work is a daily practice of not letting it break me….. today. That is where my strength comes in as well as self-compassion and an acute awareness of how I am perceived in the world.

Being a black women in this society means that I have to have a super human persona that allows everyone who experiences me feel non threatened and safe. This happens simultaneously while I feel threatened and unsafe. How fucked up is that? America and Black Women do not have a reciprocal relationship. America most often takes.

In the past few weeks I have had some strong conversations about race with the headlines about Starbucks, Waffle House, and Danielle Laporte. It seems that the common thread in these conversations is white women and their ideas about race. As I said this is a complicated conversation and it has many layers  that range from I love hip-hop and Oprah to calling for help at the first sign of feeling uncomfortable. Which is a very confusing dichotomy to digest when looking from the outside, especially when you call us sister and are still silent on the issues that threaten us most.

The issue for me is not only to understand the issues of black People/ women for white Women/people to understand their own path in what is happening. I have yet to hear a white person fully connect to the atrocities that historically you all have caused and created. When a conversation happens there is instant deflection and no personal responsibility.

The argument that I was not even alive, is mute when one considers that white people continue to benefit from economic gain from slavery. (Don’t know how watch 13th) and study history. The same books are available to everyone. No true reconciliation will ever happen if white people do not take full responsibility for their actions, non-actions, silence, complicity, advances, advantages and privileges. It goes much further back than the civil war. It goes further back than the American Revolution.

The atrocities of colonization around the globe have catastrophically devastated black and indigenous communities. And to continue to say that’s not me …. I didn’t do it perpetuates the problem.

It’s odd that White people feel so entitled to the shade from the tree when they had nothing to do with planting and growing the tree

Personally I have taken the position that I am not going to explain race to anyone again who has not taken the time to study and understand the complexities of white supremacy, the true history of this country , colonization and a full understanding of Trans Atlantic Slave Trade. I cannot seed your garden with my magic if you have not prepared the soil. The knowledge will not take root.

I have been asked I curate a list of works by authors, directors and educators that will assist you on your journey to unravel racism. These works helped me understand the world that I lived in. A world, which travels through the womb of black women, yet does not respect us as its mother. Humanity has been the child that refused to look us in the eyes as it suckles our breast. Let that soak in.

I ask that as you read, watch and learn, consider a diversity of perspectives.

  1. To gain understanding
  2. To examine your personal thoughts and actions
  3. How you can break the cycle of racism within, yourself, your family and your community
  4. Without being defensive
  5. With compassion
  6. Open to take personal responsibility for your thoughts and action
  7. Be willing to accept what you don’t understand as someone else’s truth
  8. With an open heart
  9. Be willing to push through being uncomfortable

If you do the work then as a nation we can have honest conversations that will elevate humanity and move America forward.

Many Blessing,

Monica Wisdom

Black Woman Amplified, Founder

blackwomenamplified.com

 

www.paypal.me/TeamBFFMonica

 

 

Unraveling Race Resource list:

Curated by Monica Wisdom Tyson

 

A reference for truth and knowledge of the black community, white supremacy, racism and oppression.

Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome (book)
The Isis Papers (book)
I Am not your Negro (movie)
13th (movie)
The Color of Law (book)
The Half that has never been told (book)
Letters to a Birmingham Jail(book)
Ain’t I a Woman (book)
The New Jim Crow(book)
Assata an Autobiography (book)

FruitVale Station (Movie)

Still I Rise ~ Maya Angelou (documentary)

Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption(book)

Slavery by Another Name: The re-enslavement of black americans from the civil war to World War Two (book)

The Mis-Education of the Negro (book)

The coldest winter ever (book)

Genocide in Germain south-west Africa: The Colonial War of 1904-1908 and Its Aftermath by Jurgen Zimmerer and Joachim Zeller

The Souls of Black Folk by W.E.B Du Bois (b00k)

12 years a slave (movie)

The Ways of White Folks By Langston Hughes (Book)

Sister Citizen: Shame, Stereotypes, and Black Women in America (book)

We Should All Be Feminists
by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (book)

Women’s work to follow:

Dr Joy Degruy Dr. Isis Fuqua
Dr. Frances Cress Welsing

Fania Davis

Zora Neale Hurston

Nikki Giovanni

Gwendolyn Brooks

Sonia Sanchez

 

( I believe that it is important to have a well rounded view of life though the eyes of black women , so I have included the men we learn from and poets we love)

 

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